by Liz on 03.31
edit: It’s not the honeymoon registry idea that astonishes me… I’ve heard of those… it’s that some of these folks are using the site to help pay for the WEDDING. “give to our open bar fund…”
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Category: honeymoon, wedding, weird., WHAT? | Comments: 9
i don't really mind this. i wouldn't necessarily sign up for it, but i don't mind that other people do.
however, my mother's friend was complaining about this regarding a wedding she was invited to… and seemed to be offended that they were asking her to pay for their honeymoon. i think people who are older and used to more traditional gifts are completely freaked out by it!
Yeah, I can see how people could be offended by it, but to me it makes perfect sense. What with having our own household already we have the essentials and I would rather have contributions towards the wedding event itself and figure out my own upgrades to household-y things or whatever it is that people register for at my own pace. The resources are more needed for the wedding itself than in my day-to-day life. We're doing ok there.
On the other hand, if the list of available items to contribute to tripped my ridiculous meter, like a Cinderella coach or something, I'd be shocked more because of the profligate spending on something so temporary. A Kitchen Aid mixer is forever ;)
Honeymoon registry = a yes in my book. Its something fun that, as a guest, I like to help fund!But the wedding registry? as in helping pay for cake, open bar or whatever? I would avoid that. As a guest, that would make me feel guilty. Like the couple put together this event that they couldn't afford and here I was enjoying dinner and dancing at their expense. Or that I should be paying my share. I don't know.I think a couple should just ask (kindly) for money then and not specify what the money is for – honeymoon, wedding, household things. I think its easy enough to say, "We don't need many things, so gifts of money would be greatly appreciated." or something along those lines.
maybe i'm an old lady, but i'm WAY opposed to this idea.
if you can't afford the open bar without begging your guests for help, maybe um, a destination wedding just wasn't in the cards??
i still have mixed feelings about wedding registries all together… my mom said people appreciate them because it gives them some guidance when it comes to gift shopping… but asking them to contribute to the open bar? that's a little ridiculous.
our favorite gifts were definitely not from any registry… a custom painting done by one of my friends and a year long membership to a book of the month club!
I'm with you girl. I think it's kind of out of line to ask people to pay for things like this. If we can't afford a private dinner on the beach at sunset for our honeymoon then I guess we'll just have to eat in the perfectly lovely restaurant. ;)
Everyday dishes from bedbath is one thing. Asking someone to help pay for open bar at your wedding… notsomuch.
We had a honeymoon registry – it worked well for us. A few people still gave us gifts – and you know I really treasure them. I love the thought of being able to say "we got this for our wedding" in the future. You can't do that with $$$.
But the whole pay for our cash bar bit – not feeling it. Most of these sites give you the $$ anyway – you can spend it on whatever you want. Asking for that does seem pretty tacky.
I'm with iheartkiwi, I didn't even want to register for regular things. We're paying for our wedding ourselves, and anything that smells even faintly of ASKING FOR MONEY makes me feel like a douche.
i think people are overly worried everyone is gonna give you stupid kitchen crap. but even WITH the registry, people mostly just give cash.
…am i the only one that had that experience?
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