worry.

by Liz on 05.16

I’ve heard people say that they never have any time to blog about life when they’re too busy living life. That experiencing things limits the time available to share experiences.

I’m finding that’s close to true, but a little off. I’m not busy experiencing things. I’m busy worrying about things. And all of that worry is taking up so much brain space that I don’t have room for other thoughts.

It’s not just taking up room. It’s taking up so much energy. I’m absolutely exhausted by worry.

 

What do you do to calm the eff down and stop worrying?

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Nina says:
May 16, 2012 9:55 am

Ugh… I’m sorry. Waist-deep in worry is a crappy place to be. I deal with it in mostly unhealthy, non-productive ways – like trying to drown it out with crappy television. Sometimes I manage to be good to myself and drag myself to the gym or outside and it always helps but I rarely manage to see outside of the worry long enough to find the inspiration to do that.

Hope your worries pass soon.

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Amanda says:
May 16, 2012 10:17 am

Walks in the park. The green always helps. Watching ducks or dogs or animals do their thing. And I know it is hard to actually move when you are feeling like this. Also doing stuff, being active… maybe drawing has that effect on you? (For me it is baking, really, truly, therapeutic).
Will be thinking of you.

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Melanie says:
May 16, 2012 10:40 am

I make lists. I find that it at least makes me feel like I’m being productive and taking steps to find solutions. I also remind myself that you eat an elephant one bite at a time. When a problem seems too large and I’m afraid to do anything, I try to find one small corner I can get to.

That, and a stiff drink.

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Erin says:
May 16, 2012 10:44 am

Stupid worry. Needs a punch in the face. A lot of my methods for dealing with it are patently unhealthy (eating all the things? check. napping excessively? check. lots and lots of beer… also check.) and definitely unhelpful. Things that do help: long walks (fast walking until I settle down, and then a saunter); choosing my entertainment carefully (escapism + brain engagement = relief and feeling productive); visiting and sitting in gardens and arboretums (there’s order and beauty, so they rest my mind).
Hope your worries ebb away. xx

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Koru Kate {Koru Wedding} says:
May 16, 2012 11:17 am

Worrying sucks! I try my best to remind myself that worrying will not change the outcome; it’s useless. When nothing else works, a long walk with my pup or trip to the ocean or a good nap clears my mind. Best wishes~

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kathleen says:
May 16, 2012 12:07 pm

ugggghhhh worrying BLOWS. the only way I’m ever able to calm down is to either: 1. exercise like a crazy person; or 2. keep repeating to myself that I’ve done all that I can on my end and that there’s nothing else I can do except wait and breathe. usually the two happen simultaneously. and sometimes a crazy long walk with a favorite audiobook works wonders – you can really tune out and just relax.

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Anna says:
May 16, 2012 12:18 pm

Ugh, worrying taking up so much head space sucks. I have been feeling something similar lately. This is probably not too helpful, but when I’m at my wit’s end, I drink a glass (or three) of wine. Otherwise, I try to remind myself that this, too, shall pass. It works, if only for a short time.

I hope your worries subside sooner rather than later.

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cartascartas says:
May 16, 2012 12:35 pm

i’m a master worrier myself, but i’ve found that while working out helps when i’m worrying about something i can control (the moving gives me the energy to take action), yoga helps quiet my mind when i’m worrying about things beyond my control.

but it sucks. i hope you find some peace of mind soon.

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jacqueline says:
May 16, 2012 1:58 pm

Worry for me comes in peaks and valleys. Sometimes worry is all I can think and focus on. Sometimes it seems distant and removed from my life. I wish there was a way to control it, but I’ve learned the best I can do is distract myself. Unfortunately distractions work only for a short amount of time. After that walk or bowl of ice cream is consumed, I’m back to where I started.

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meghan says:
May 16, 2012 3:52 pm

I will second the list making. Once I see everything in a nice orderly list, I feel more in control of things.

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Rachel T. says:
May 16, 2012 5:13 pm

I am a PRO worrier. I take walks, I read blogs (that’s more for procrastination), I read, and I look at pictures of really cute animals. I guess that list mostly just shows me that I avoid… not cope… but it’s honest! That’s what I do when I’m worrying and need to stop. :) ((HUG))

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Donna says:
May 16, 2012 5:55 pm

Third the list making, even if the list only has two things on it because there are only two things you can do in relation to the thing that you’re worrying about. If there isn’t much that I can do, actually seeing that helps me to accept that I’ve done all that I can do.

Also, I find baking therapeutic – do you have something like that? Being near water (the beach, a river, a pool) has the same effect for me as well. I hope you’re able to find peace soon and that whatever is causing you to worry resolves itself x

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craftosaurus says:
May 16, 2012 6:46 pm

Lists are helpful for me to a point, then they become overwhelming. Once I have a list started, I find it helps me TONS to make myself plow through some of the easier things to get some momentum going.

When my worrying keeps me from sleeping, I have my husband tell me about his day with as much boring minutiae as he can muster.

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Petite Chablis says:
May 16, 2012 6:54 pm

Ugh, I know this feeling (and usually I’m not even worrying about anything that’s even close to an immediate problem!). The only solution I’ve found is to do something that captures 100% of my attention so I don’t have enough brain power left over to worry. I’ll read a trashy but engaging book, do cardio with really loud music, bake something complicated, sometimes write a blog post. Distraction is the name of my game!

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nikkiana says:
May 16, 2012 7:16 pm

This happens to me, too. (In fact, it’s a large reason why I haven’t blogged much at all in the past few weeks). I find that at the times when I’m feeling worried, I still want to write, I just don’t want to write for public consumption. I end up writing lots of stream of conscious journal entries on my computer.

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meghan says:
May 16, 2012 10:42 pm

ugh! worries… I’ve been feeling similar lately. too many worries. bourbon and trips to the gym and long walks have been my solutions. and of course, list making also helps me. i’m a compulsive list maker and that helps calm down once things are written on my list.
good luck quieting those worries.

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kerry says:
May 17, 2012 7:56 am

I’m pretty much a professional worrier. I’m so good at it, that often I have to really sit down, get quiet, and pick my brain over exactly WHAT I’m worrying about. This sounds silly, because it’s seemingly *right there:* “I’m worried about money. I’m worried about that thing my friend said over cocktails the other day. I’m worried about my mom. I’m worried about my job….”

But I try and move toward a more specific point – “Ok, I’m worried about money – but what about? What am I afraid will happen? How likely is this event to happen? If it did, what tools would I need to fix it? What would be the worst possible outcome?”

Sometimes, through this line of questioning, I find that what I *thought* I was worrying over is in fact something camouflaged, something unlikely, or something I can tackle/plan for, once I’ve uncovered it.

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iheartkiwi says:
May 18, 2012 12:04 pm

I am a list maker too. The front of my computer is covered in post-it notes… but I find if I write it down I can relax knowing I won’t forget things.

That and I find the older I get, the less I care about trying to please everyone. That cut down on my worrying BIG TIME. More time enjoying life, less time worrying about what others think of my life.

Oh and yoga… can’t forget about yoga :)

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Jenny- Adventures Along the Way says:
May 19, 2012 6:17 pm

I guess it depends on what I am worried about. Lists for things that I need to do but are overwhelming. Cleaning or baking for stressful things I can’t do anything about (or to avoid the overwhelming project at hand). Journaling/prayer/listening for the BIG stuff with no clear answers. I try to get out all my worries and fear and thoughts and after that’s all out, I try to be still and listen.

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